What It Means To Love Yourself

It means having fun. It means conscientiousness and generosity. It means trust of self before others and others when they earn it. It means eliminating toxicity from your life – attitudes, words, experiences, people. It means being kindly assertive – knowing you are worthy of holding space in the world. It means knowing your perspective matters just as everyone else’s perspective matters, too. It means being true to self, not true to everyone else to the detriment of your own value system. It means openness to change – in you and others. It means taking care of yourself in ways that mean most to you – whether it’s your heart, time, body, soul, physical space around you… It means approaching the world in curiosity without feeling threatened by every last opinion that doesn’t reflect the exact facts of your own. It’s about living in a...

Impactful Moments

I’ve been part of disaster relief in Taylorville, IL for the last week. This community had the most significant damage in severe storms after The National Weather Service says 30 tornadoes were recorded moving through the state Saturday, December 1, 2018. We plodded through damaged areas where more than 500 homes were impacted – 100 majorly damaged or destroyed. We walked up to this home and heard what seemed like impossible generosity when someone appeared in the opening where the roof is missing and called down to ask if we needed a sandwich – that they had food to share. Wow.

My Quora Experience

When I was a teenager – this book called The Book of Question came out as I was graduating from high school. I purchased one and something changed in me. It woke up my philosophical and psychological bent which I continue to consider passion interests still today decades later. The author Gregory Stock Ph.D – has no idea how much he impacted my life. My love of living in the questions carries over today online – not just on this blog. I spend quite a bit of time perusing Quora. You know how some people can’t enough Youtube or niche blogs? I’m a Quora person. I love learning, growing, and expanding my awareness of myself and others, not to mention our group experience on this planet together. I follow about 1800 topics and absorb information regularly when I’m not in resting pose – calm, peaceful, and serenely just being:) I’ve answered a...

Speaking & Signings Popping Up

I already have a couple fun updates to share in regard to speaking and signings. I’ve been asked to speak at the upcoming Leadership Illinois Alumni Conference Jan. 28th. The catalyst? My book  is a 9 Word Rethink To Get On With Life. I invite readers in to take a closer look at some of my own experiences walking through the world. Part of that is sharing the learning that impacts my view of the #MeToo movement. When you’re a woman who stands on your own two feet proud of your own grit and tenacity – where does #MeToo come in to play? It does in a significant way and I share thoughts about that. You don’t have to be in Hollywood to have impactful ideas. In fact, the vast majority of women who experience their own #MeToo moments (and many are much more than moments in the ripple effects – as I illustrate from my own vantage point in my book)…live very...

Books Are Here! Books Are Here!

Yay! My first order of books arrived last night. It’s been a great week! The first shipment is sitting safely in my living room and about half are already spoken for, so maybe another order is ahead soon. One of my brothers and one of my sisters helped me out by going through my drafts to help me clean it up. Thank you to them, because that is not a quick process. My sister said reading it was an emotional experience and she did it with wine in hand…which is maybe a good suggestion. Worth noting. It could be a marketing tactic to consider…9 Word Rethink and a glass of wine. Hmmm. Amusing. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry…you’ll relate and need wine. My brother said he learned about me in the pages which I realize is a good thing. As life drips off of all of us human beings, we sometimes find ourselves looking straight ahead – keeping life going...

The Kindness Dilemmas

Is kindness a cop out for real action? I’ve asked myself this question trying to decide if it’s too wishy washy and willy nilly to commit to staying kind in as many dealings as possible. It’s certainly a welcome and well-worn mantra for many of us. However, if someone is a brute – causing damage to you like a bull in a china shop – what the heck is kindness gonna achieve? The best decision in these cases is often to remove yourself from the situation. Maybe kindness is foolish more often than people want to admit when they’re hellbent on championing it’s healing and magical mojo effects. I think about this observing life around me. My gut tells me this is a huge disconnect for many people. In thorough frustration – what do we do? I’ve decided to land on decency and civility, if nothing else, backed up by assertiveness which...

Change as a Rainbow

I wrote this blog post several months ago looking at my future curious about how the path would look in coming months. I share it now as we begin our final weeks of this calendar year anticipating how we want to craft our individual new years. It’s not about resolutions. It’s about taking stock and acknowledging the questions we live in day to day. I venture a guess we all do this sometimes. At times – my experience on the planet is such a churning series of changes, I barely recognize my own choices in it. I seem to have to allow my life to roll down a hill, let go, and trust the process of the tumble. Maybe we’re all that way when we’re open to new experiences. I feel scared at times considering my own insignificance in the scheme of things – having willingly shaken up my surroundings in a relentlessly focused move toward authenticity – as...

A Season of Gratitude

You hope to live life with enough gratitude – expressing enough appreciation – that making it a point to say thank you at this particular time of thanksgiving isn’t the end all, because people in your realm already feel appreciated. But, the truth of the matter is – I know I don’t make it a point to say thank you every time I could. I direct my thinking toward the loving, supportive people – especially those who quietly do small things to help and show caring – watching out for you from a safe distance. You want to believe people see your heart when they’ve known you. You want to believe you see the hearts of those you’ve known. It’s part of the magic of being human. We impact each other. Kindness and compassion matter. I want to take a moment looking back at this year to say I appreciate you and I learn from your decency. I...