6-Trust Is A Tough Thing

6th of 6 parts Trust is a tough thing. If we can’t trust our own truth, why would we be able to trust the truth of someone else? Walking through life in a way that hopefully helps someone who could use a friend or could stand to borrow a new perspective for a while on the way to their own growth is a fine kind of existence. I’m centered and don’t know what someone could say that could derail that. This is an important idea to share with those considering putting their personal perspective out there. When you know who you are, do you need those who reveal they can’t support you? Wouldn’t the support they’d give you – in the illusion of sameness you might have shared – have been disingenuous before you shared your truth? I don’t know…might seem simplistic. But, I choose to see these kinds of moments of awareness as gifts. They...

5-When A Voice Gets Its Wings

5th of 6 parts I’ve been asked a few times if this process of writing a book has been therapeutic. I want to continue this thought process to help others considering sharing their writing – as I’m guessing looking at ourselves is one of the hardest parts of being willing to write about our experiences. As for being therapeutic…  I’d say cathartic instead. It was a release of several awareness I’ve lived with from my personal experiences mixed with vast learning over the years. Sharing personal stories has been fascinatingly helpful to me in a way I didn’t expect. That’s, in part, because my initial focus for getting this book done was first and foremost – being tired of dragging around a plan from decades ago to write my damn book. It’s good to use my voice. My primary desire is wanting to share a smidge of what I’ve...

4-Emotional Openness With Impulse Control

4th of 6 Parts In my first years as a journalist, I remember talking to so many people about their lives – letting every bit of it soak in as I learned about the lives of people from all walks of life – everything ranging from fear of losing their homes and health concerns to deep insecurities and at the extreme – murder. I really wanted to talk to these people, to know them, to learn, to try to understand, to see how I could share their story in a way that connected them with others. It was an emotional process for me as much as cerebral one full of facts and brass tacks information. I wanted people to feel what I felt sitting with them knowing their difficulty was all of our difficulty if we don’t stop for a moment and understand we all impact each other. I used to talk about it with friends in the newsroom. I wondered if emotional openness with impulse...

3-Never Show Vulnerability…Unless…

3rd of 6 parts I know a lot of people fervently believe the idea – NEVER SHOW VULNERABILITY. Never let anyone see your weakness. I understand the thinking, but what if it’s better than pretending you are invulnerable? Is a cardboard existence for a huge portion of your life enough for you? Maybe it is. I’m made differently than that. I have always known that wouldn’t be enough for me. It’s what makes the world so darn interesting, isn’t it? People are different. I’m going to dive a little deeper here, however. Hold your breath and take the plunge with me for a second… How can you trust someone who pretends everything is ok all the time or that something difficult doesn’t really bug them much, if at all. That’s always interesting to me. Isn’t there a lot of lying in that kind of existence? There’s a time and place...

2-Smashing Self-Doubt

2nd of 6 parts How much self-doubt do I have? Sometimes so very much. Sometimes so very little. It depends on what I’ve challenged myself to do. How do I address this? I’ve always had to make sure I break things apart in my mind one by one versus jump in to what’s happening around me with too much vim and vigor. When you have can-do enthusiasm – it’s easy to overwhelm yourself. I’ve learned as I’ve matured to stop, take a deep breath, and break apart what I’m doing into much, much smaller pieces. One decision at a time is my go-to centering place in my work. A creative spirit is awesome, but can become unwieldy fast. Keeping self-doubt in check is possible because I’m ok with who I am. I know who I am. I like who I am. If I worried about what others feel about me 24-7, I’d be more invested in them and their random thoughts...

1-Guts To Share: Good or Bad Idea?

1st of 6 parts Here’s something interesting about going through the process of writing and putting a book out there that might be useful sharing to help if you’ve wanted a friendly nudge heading down this path. What happens when you put pieces of who you are out there – in public? You could be rejected. You could be judged harshly. It can be scary. I don’t know what happened to me exactly over the last decade, but concerns I might have had about being smashed or shredded for my viewpoint have mostly dissolved away with the years. I think it’s because I’m coming at my project from a sincere, seeking place. I’m not trying to prove anything and claim no official answers. I have viewpoints based on my experiences worthy of note, but I’m not all-knowing. I don’t function that way. I see humanity in people. I feel it in myself. I yearn...

WJBC Author Interview

Thanks to WJBC Radio Afternoon Show Host Marc Strauss for asking me to sit down for a chat about my brand new book 9 Word Rethink To Get On With Life. I touched on a bit about the book including the catalyst for writing it. He asked me if this experience was therapeutic. The word I’d use is cathartic…and I didn’t expect that. I think whenever a person can speak their truth, it’s a very good thing. It’s how I’m made to think like that. I wanted to write a book to help others in a way I would have found helpful along the way. My career has been focused on helping people find and use their precious voices. It’s time for me to spend more time using my own. Here is the link to the interview. Thanks, Marc. You’re a gem.    ...

Hay House Book Catalog

I am proud to report my book is listed on the Hay House publication catalog site. It comes up on the front page. This might be one of my proudest moments. It’s dream come true kind of stuff. I’m going to relax into this a little and enjoy riding the wave as it’s rolling toward the shore. The sky is blue, the warm breeze is wonderful, the scent is a mix between salty sea air and jasmine, and the sun overhead is bright. Thanks to all who have supported me on this voyage. This has been a positive life-impacting adventure. When you have gone through plenty of ups and downs as we all have, you know you’re growing in an effective direction when you can recognize easily moments it’s time to do little more than take a deep breath and enjoy the ride for a while. This is one of those times – for a few days anyway. 😉 I shared this gem of a quote with an old...