Pandemic: Life Impacts Now

More concern, more deliberation, more mindfulness probably sums it up pretty well. I woke up in the wee hours of Saturday morning feeling unsettled. Actually, I’ve been waking [up] at about 3 am for several days now. Clearly, worry is high right now all over the place. It’s not just about one topic, either, and that’s part of what’s tough. I counted about 10 categories of concerns there in the dark. Health of kids, health of ALL of my people: 90-year-old mom, older siblings, my guy, friends, etc., getting things done, budgeting, planning ahead, my daughter’s braces situation which rightfully changes now, which are the gnarly doorknobs and any handle really that need extra cleaning attention(?), is laundry temperature important right now for killing germs(?), what will schooling look like now(?), my online teaching plan, plus much more serious concerns than those even — in other words,...

Chimayo On A Whim

Walking onto Chimayo Mission ground on a whim – Adrian having never been there and my having been there with my mom and sisters a couple years prior – I thought maybe he’d like to experience it. It was special and impactful – not for a second expecting that versus the sightseeing detour I assumed it’d be. We walked into the start of an outdoor Mass able to experience that as we entered. Just moments before – getting out of the car and beginning to walk – I noted a tiny heart shaped natural stone on the ground – less than an inch square. I quietly reached down to pick it up and kept walking holding it between my fingers thinking about that unusual moment. Once the service was over – beautiful as it was framed by the mountains behind under a canopy of trees and sun shades – we walked up to the church itself. The legend has to do...

WGLT – 89.1 NPR Affiliate Interview

Reaction to the interview on WGLT has been powerful. Thanks to Eric Stock for seeking depth in the process with his thoughtful questions. Here is the story and audio interview. I appreciate the stories shared, support offered, and groundswell behind this idea of taking the word sex out of the names of these charges.

Are You Over The Rape?

You never get over being raped. You work through it. You figure out how to be – in a new way – after being raped, but it sticks with you. It never actually goes away. I’ve worked through the trauma over the years. I’m in a very healthy place. I’ve untangled the confusion, sadness, frustration, anger, and disillusionment that came with it. I’ve worked on the fear, but there’s still fear there for me in certain situations. My awareness of safety is high. I’m a mellow person, by nature and rape reduced that some. I’m grateful for the #MeToo movement. It’s collecting voices of so many people and amplifying the awareness. It’s offering validation that’s been sorely needed. It’s offering a forum that makes it possible to be heard and taken seriously. In my book, I talk about having been sexually harassed in college...

Rape is NOT a Sex Crime

I’ve wanted to talk about this topic, but have found it difficult to do. It’s weighty, for one. For another – this is stark startling subject matter. It’s hardly something you bring up out of the blue. It also bugs people for all kinds of reasons. I understand that as people share stories with me. Maybe they were too close to this at one point, went through it, found themselves not standing up for someone in a moment they now wish they had…maybe they question their own past behavior – a difficult reveal even to yourself I’m sure for those who turn the light on that. The title of this post is simple – easy to grasp, explain, and understand – but… still a big idea requiring shifts in thinking and legal verbiage. One specific goal I have for this book is to get the ball rolling in more people seeing the value in removing the word...

6-Trust Is A Tough Thing

6th of 6 parts Trust is a tough thing. If we can’t trust our own truth, why would we be able to trust the truth of someone else? Walking through life in a way that hopefully helps someone who could use a friend or could stand to borrow a new perspective for a while on the way to their own growth is a fine kind of existence. I’m centered and don’t know what someone could say that could derail that. This is an important idea to share with those considering putting their personal perspective out there. When you know who you are, do you need those who reveal they can’t support you? Wouldn’t the support they’d give you – in the illusion of sameness you might have shared – have been disingenuous before you shared your truth? I don’t know…might seem simplistic. But, I choose to see these kinds of moments of awareness as gifts. They...