Pandemic: Musical Distancing

The band I’m in of a bunch of GenX friends is creatively experimenting with a way to play music while socially distancing during the pandemic. We are all part of a stay at home order by our governor and it sparked a new way to come together. One of our members is a huge David Bowie fan and this song, Five Years, is our first effort to play separately together each in our own homes. We had great fun making this happen. It’s a reminder that unexpected snafus can turn into happy accidents and deliberate new creative directions. We might even make a habit of...

Stay At Home Birthday

My son’s 11th birthday party was last night; during the stay at home order by our governor in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic. At 11, he dreams of outings for his birthday with lots of friends. The stay at home kind of birthday is an adjustment. It was the way it is this year. I have a few gifts for him, he got a couple very hoped for gift cards, and cash. His 15-year-old sister stole the show, though, with her coupons for time and experiences for her brother to use with her when he wants time with her. It’s a very big deal, because at their ages his sister isn’t always game for his requests on his schedule. This will change that some and I’m proud of her to bringing it in this way. All in all? She gave him more than six hours of time for activities. Some are specific such as jumping on the trampoline and playing catch with a football to laser tag or anything...

Pandemic: Time At Home

This has been an unusual opportunity for an unexpected helpful slow down of sorts to focus on what matters – the health and well-being of human beings. This shift has me spending more direct time with my kids since school is cancelled for the time being and we’re waiting for next steps. I’ve started on some home organization projects I’ve been wanting to get done (for too long). One involves my 15-year-old daughter sitting with me to go through storage totes of her old stuff from when she was four and five. I didn’t expect it to be fun, but it was a hoot. We laughed so much pulling out various funny memories and useless junk from the boxes. There were things I assumed she’d remember from childhood she had no clue about and there were things she remembered that stunned me. Unexpected bonding opportunity. Plus, it was satisfying to have emptied two boxes tonight after supper...

Decent Person Indicator

Sincerity is this kind of beacon of light to me. It’s about being sensitive, calm, thoughtful, and peaceful. That displays differently in different people. It’s not about being a meek person at all. You can be expressive, passionate, and/or cerebral, to name a few. A mature adult still able to be vulnerable enough to show sensitivity after many years of life grabbing a hold of them (as it does virtually everyone) attempting to leave them in a state of numbness and emotional despair – to me is a wonder. It takes real courage not to harden into stone through life. Calm requires a willingness to fight the ferocious visual and auditory stimulation shoved at us nearly constantly few can entirely escape. One simple example: TVs at gas pumps? Really? Mindfulness and a commitment to staying present and finding center again when tossed off is what this person displays…and it’s a precious...

My Birthday Month

As my birthday quietly melts into a new day …(despite the fact I continue to lobby for the birthday week)… I want to say thank you for such kind birthday wishes – impactful day and an unusual milestone bday for sure. It’s been a day filled with extremes – warmth, possibility, travel, adventure, patience, professional accomplishment, love, friendship, sadness, joy, creativity, fear, frustration, connection … as if much of what a person can experience was wrapped up in a moment called today. It was highly unusual and I’m marveling at the big picture of it. I’m a bit late getting home tonight from a DC area conference this week that was excellent all around – content and people – loved it -special experience. The reason? Weather delays as will happen, but then a family had trouble on one flight. A mom and her four kids (seemingly teenage) were...

Series: #9 Do It Again?

Book Author Question Series Will you do it again? It depends on my reasons. I love to write. It’s part of how I breathe. Is it always perfect or ideal? Of course not. That’s not the point of my life on this planet from what I gather through ample life experience. I will do what keeps me feeling vibrant and alive, speaking to my authentic self, able to reach my goals in a way I can feel good about… If what I want to do meets that criteria – I’ll do it. If it means writing a book. Great! If not, I’ll embark on some other creative journey. At the moment I have a few different ideas in mind for future books and I’ve framed a couple of them out pretty well. At the moment, that is enough. One particular quote comes to mind as I type this: Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because...