Enjoy The Process While Striving

I’m working on this right now as I make significant shifts for my long term future. I’m a single mom career professional with two children ages 9 and 14. I have adventures ahead, but I want to make sure my kids remain the priority they are. Here’s what I’m doing: 1- Travel every 4–8 weeks to a place that takes me closer to my goal. A place I want to live, an experience I want to make a central part of my future. 2- Conferences and workshops that speak to my future self. This is such a simple way to find out if you’re serious about a dream. Surround yourself with people passionate on a topic you’re interested in and see where you stand when the event is over. You can learn a lot about yourself this way. I went to a writer’s conference and a month later my draft manuscript was ready. All I needed was clarity it offered, a couple questions answered, and then I had...

Inspiration or Discipline – Key to Success?

Creativity with discipline is a force to be reckoned with. -Henneberryism I grew up with this mantra – said to me more than a few times by my parents. It’s a concept I discuss in my book 9 Word Rethink To Get On With Life. I dwell on it in a chapter called Normal in a section called The Narrative of Normal – right before Living Next To Normal. This quote became a standardizing place to land in my mind as I considered the implications of the idea. Inspiration needs tethering to keep it grounded in reality and discipline needs some passion and energy behind it or burn out is almost inevitable in time. It takes both to make amazing things happen. You can be inspired all day long, but without actions steps – you’ll float around in the clouds full of aimless inspired bliss – warm and fuzzy as that is and all. Pure discipline is robotic. It can get you started,...

To Stay or Go – Constructive or Destructive?

I offered an answer to this question sent to me on Quora today and I’m sharing it here, because it speaks to something many people put up with…  For what purpose? – is always my question. It’s a common idea and the answers ranged from – get it together and exercise already to why do you not like your self more than to put up with such poor treatment. Another answer that stood out was that this is only the beginning of the mistreatment ahead of this person if this behavior is accepted. I’ve heard people proud of the mean-spirited words they toss at people in the name of ‘honesty’ and telling it like it is – when it’s really just insensitive and lacking empathy. I share my thought on the subject below. My boyfriend called me fat and said my stomach was big, and I can’t forget that he said this (as it’s my biggest insecurity) and...

Failing Forward or Just Failing – How do I know?

I bet most of us wonder this sometimes. I sure have. It’s easy in this world of so much happening around us so much of the time to wonder if we are indeed making progress or just running in place, if that. Attitude and how you use the failures to inform better moves forward are big parts of the difference in my estimation. If you use what you perceive as failure – as lessons and then apply the lessons – you are moving forward constructively. It’s about all you can ask of yourself after tough stuff. The most glaring difficulty can be that it doesn’t seem like progress happens fast enough… if that’s where you dwell. Celebrating every tiny victory can help for a while. Another thing that can help is setting specific goals as you dig out of where you are – with 5 or 10 things you require yourself to achieve each day to help you see your own progress and grow the...

The Lionhearted

What is the most frustrating thing about being an ENFP? If you enjoy Myers-Briggs personality tests…and find you are an ENFP – maybe this will ring a bell. I answered a question on Quora I’m sharing here now. I type as an ENFP…but sit at nearly 50-50 for Feeling/Thinking and Perceiving/Judging…like many many people who get a kick out of studying personality typing. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea. It has been immensely helpful for me in building a broader understanding of how differently two people can process the same information. I’ve taken the test officially twice and a few times in different moods online – curious to see if the results were similar…and, interestingly, in my case – results were pretty similar. In our utter imperfect humanness – we each try to figure out this life one day at a time. This was a...

My Cup Runneth Over

This is one of my favorite moments in the old ‘Little House on the Prairie’ TV series that starred Melissa Gilbert and Michael Landon. It used to be my very favorite show and I still keep a warm place in my heart for it. I associate watching this show over the years with such fond memories. There’s a point in one episode where Laura says these words when her heart is full. It’s a sweet moment. This biblical idea speaks to how I see my own life. I am full of wonder and awe for the life around me now. I am grateful for the good that has shown up in my life. Has there been frustration and difficulty? Absolutely, but it hasn’t overwhelmed the goodness and that, my friends, I think is the goal of the balancing act of life. The life around me full of love, peace, generosity, wisdom, laughter, affection, and calm contentment. It is a wonderful thing. I cherish it...