Decent Person Indicator

Sincerity is this kind of beacon of light to me. It’s about being sensitive, calm, thoughtful, and peaceful. That displays differently in different people. It’s not about being a meek person at all. You can be expressive, passionate, and/or cerebral, to name a few. A mature adult still able to be vulnerable enough to show sensitivity after many years of life grabbing a hold of them (as it does virtually everyone) attempting to leave them in a state of numbness and emotional despair – to me is a wonder. It takes real courage not to harden into stone through life. Calm requires a willingness to fight the ferocious visual and auditory stimulation shoved at us nearly constantly few can entirely escape. One simple example: TVs at gas pumps? Really? Mindfulness and a commitment to staying present and finding center again when tossed off is what this person displays…and it’s a precious...

My Birthday Month

As my birthday quietly melts into a new day …(despite the fact I continue to lobby for the birthday week)… I want to say thank you for such kind birthday wishes – impactful day and an unusual milestone bday for sure. It’s been a day filled with extremes – warmth, possibility, travel, adventure, patience, professional accomplishment, love, friendship, sadness, joy, creativity, fear, frustration, connection … as if much of what a person can experience was wrapped up in a moment called today. It was highly unusual and I’m marveling at the big picture of it. I’m a bit late getting home tonight from a DC area conference this week that was excellent all around – content and people – loved it -special experience. The reason? Weather delays as will happen, but then a family had trouble on one flight. A mom and her four kids (seemingly teenage) were...

Series: #9 Do It Again?

Book Author Question Series Will you do it again? It depends on my reasons. I love to write. It’s part of how I breathe. Is it always perfect or ideal? Of course not. That’s not the point of my life on this planet from what I gather through ample life experience. I will do what keeps me feeling vibrant and alive, speaking to my authentic self, able to reach my goals in a way I can feel good about… If what I want to do meets that criteria – I’ll do it. If it means writing a book. Great! If not, I’ll embark on some other creative journey. At the moment I have a few different ideas in mind for future books and I’ve framed a couple of them out pretty well. At the moment, that is enough. One particular quote comes to mind as I type this: Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because...

Series: #2 Are Books Passé?

Book Author Question Series Why bother writing a book in this time? Each new medium is scrutinized as being behind the times when something fresh comes along. What ends up happening is that each find a way to claim their own space. Not seeing that possibility seems to demonstrate our inability to imagine more than what’s actually possible than anything watching these discussions and the morphing that happens. Certain books have more appeal in classic book form than others. I’ve heard books that sell well called airport books. Reference books are less useful as that information populates so many internet websites. However, prescriptive books have applicable use when paired with who you are and your personal perspective. It’s what I’ve understood, seen, and respond to, so that is my lighthouse – my beacon. Why write a book at this time? Why not? It’s...

Sound Ideas Interview Friday 2/8/19

Look for an interview on the NPR station WGLT – 89.1 FM tomorrow (2/8/19) during Sound Ideas. Eric Stock talks with me about my book, 9 Word Rethink To Get On With Life. Thanks to Eric for reading it and asking such thoughtful questions. I don’t have exact air times, but I’ll share a link when I have one. Two quick thoughts for the day: A couple of friends and I talked over coffee (for me it’s always ice tea – don’t like coffee – wish I did – but I digress…) this week each talked about overcoming fear – not sure how to do it – actually worrying – maybe boiling down to fear of failure. My first thought is this: When you worry, you bet against yourself. If you’ve reached a point in your life you feel you don’t have the guts to try something new, in part, because of all you’ve built behind you...

Enjoy The Process While Striving

I’m working on this right now as I make significant shifts for my long term future. I’m a single mom career professional with two children ages 9 and 14. I have adventures ahead, but I want to make sure my kids remain the priority they are. Here’s what I’m doing: 1- Travel every 4–8 weeks to a place that takes me closer to my goal. A place I want to live, an experience I want to make a central part of my future. 2- Conferences and workshops that speak to my future self. This is such a simple way to find out if you’re serious about a dream. Surround yourself with people passionate on a topic you’re interested in and see where you stand when the event is over. You can learn a lot about yourself this way. I went to a writer’s conference and a month later my draft manuscript was ready. All I needed was clarity it offered, a couple questions answered, and then I had...