Is kindness a cop out for real action?
I’ve asked myself this question trying to decide if it’s too wishy washy and willy nilly to commit to staying kind in as many dealings as possible. It’s certainly a welcome and well-worn mantra for many of us.
However, if someone is a brute – causing damage to you like a bull in a china shop – what the heck is kindness gonna achieve? The best decision in these cases is often to remove yourself from the situation. Maybe kindness is foolish more often than people want to admit when they’re hellbent on championing it’s healing and magical mojo effects.
I think about this observing life around me. My gut tells me this is a huge disconnect for many people.
In thorough frustration – what do we do?
I’ve decided to land on decency and civility, if nothing else, backed up by assertiveness which I’m convinced is key to confident sincerity – one of my favorite combinations to see in people I encounter.
Here’s a question I ask myself when helping others in kindness. Am I giving more of myself than I can afford to lose (time, resources, support, energy, etc.)
If the answer is yes, I stop.
It’s one of the ways I’ve learned to have my own back and not feel I’ve been reckless in my willingness to give to others.
Hopefully, it’s useful to someone else, too.